Life with Equation - Anxiety

Anxiety is a general term for several disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension and worrying. Anxiety  impacts our quality of life - affects us how we feel, how we behave and results with real physical symptoms.

Anxiety starts controlling our thoughts & behavior when a well defined plan starts failing. In anticipation of worst case scenario, more negative thoughts controlling our mind. More negative thoughts result more anxiety.

Anxiety = ( uncertainty ) x ( powerlessness )

Personality

What is "personality"

The word "personality" came from a Latin word "persona" which means mask. Personality is a person's characteristic pattern of thoughts, feelings and behaviors - usually the personality of an individual is consistent across time and situation. Personality traits of an individual determines how the individual adjusts itself to the environment and how it reacts on any specific situation.

How and when "personality" develops
Personality of any individual continue to develop throughout its lifetime. Specific traits change at different rates and to different degrees - some personality traits seem to remain constant throughout a person's life, while others undergo dramatic changes. Personality development is more obvious during childhood when kids are experiencing rapid physical, emotional and intellectual growth. At adulthood, personality traits change at a slower rate. However, personality development varies from individual to individual.

Factors influencing in "personality" development



Components of "personality"

Consistency - There is generally a recognizable order and regularity to behaviors. Essentially, people act in the same ways or similar ways in a variety of situations.

Psychological and Physiological - Personality is a psychological construct, but research suggests that it is also influenced by biological processes and needs.

Behaviors and Actions - Personality does not just influence how we move and respond in our environment; it also causes us to act in certain ways.

Multiple Expressions - Personality is displayed in more than just behavior. It can also be seen in our thoughts, feelings, close relationships and other social interactions.

The big five "personality" dimensions
Many contemporary personality psychologists believe that there are five basic dimensions of personality, often referred to as the "Big 5" personality traits. The five broad personality traits described by the theory are openness, neutral, rational, analytical and decisive. Evidence of this theory has been growing over the past few decades.

These dimensions represent broad areas of personality. Research has demonstrated that these groupings of characteristics tend to occur together in many people. Personality is a complex as well as varied and each person may display behaviors across several of these dimensions.

We need to remember that the behavior involves an interaction between a person's underlying personality and institutional variables. The situation plays a major role how a person reacts. However, in most cases, people offer responses that are consistent with their underlying personality traits.

Video in action to understand "personality"

Discovering Personalities | Winning Personality
Character Creation | Extra Credits
4 Personality Types | Brian Mcintosh

Importance to understand "personality"

Personality influence our expectations, self-perceptions, values, attitudes – it's responsible for our reactions to people, problem as well as stress. Personality is the engine - the input to this engine comes through our sense organs from outside world and the output from this engine is the way we react or behave on any situation.

Sense organs are playing the most important role - if our 5 sensors won't able to pass the right information to personality engine, it results imperfect behavior from the personal. A true leader verify and re-verify all signals before react to any situation. This results a true leader to practice  observation skill, listening skill as well as questioning skill.

If you like this blog, look for my blog on Leadership where personality plays an important role to shape up the character of a Leader's world view.

Stress Management

 What is Stress

Stress is a normal physical response to events that make an individual feel threatened or upset its balance in some way. In other words, stress is the complex interaction between the events of life and the perception of those events by an individual. When we sense danger—whether it’s real or imagined—our body's defenses kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the “fight-or-flight-or-freeze” reaction, or the stress response.

The stress response is the body’s way of protecting us. When working properly, it helps us stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save our life—giving us extra strength to defend ourselves. The stress response also helps us rise to meet challenges. Stress is what keeps us on our toes during a presentation at work, sharpens our concentration when we’re attempting the game-winning free throw, or drives us to study for an exam when we'd rather be watching TV.

But beyond a certain point, stress stops being helpful and starts causing major damage to our health, our mood, our productivity, our relationships, and our quality of life.

The body's Stress Response 

When we perceive a threat, our nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones rouse the body for the emergency action.

Heart pounds faster

Muscles tighten

Blood pressure rises

Breath quickens

Senses become sharper

These physical changes increase our strength and stamina, speed our reaction time, and enhance our focus—preparing us to either fight or flee from the danger at hand.

Causes of Stress

There are a number of different causes and triggers for stress, the most common culprits are family, work, financial and health related matters.

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Effects of Stress - Medically

Effects of Stress - Physically

How to Manage Stress

Nutrients for Stress Relieving

 It's very important to leave the stress behind and move forward with the positive energy. Meditation is one of the best way to keep the stress under control. Look out for my blog on Meditation in next few days time.

Emotional Excelence @ Work

" No doubt Emotional intellegence is more rare than book smarts, but my experience says it is actually more important in the making of a leader "     ~ Jack Welch

Intelligent Quotient (IQ)

IQ is a measure of relative intelligence determined by a standardized test. IQ of majority of the people varies 85 ~ 115. 

(Mental Age/Chronological Age) X 100 = IQ.

Emotional Intelligent Quotient (EQ)

EQ refers to perceive, control & evaluate the emotion. It’s a combination of Interpersonal Skill (self awareness) & Intrapersonal Skill (relating others).

EQ is often affected by individual perceptions.

Emotional Excellence (EE)

Emotional Excellence is the motivation from the heart to practice Emotional Intelligence.

Core values of Spirit, power of EQ from Mind and behavioral changes of Body works harmonically while practicing Emotional Excellence.

 

An emotionally excellent person able to transfer itself into a good leader who can able to demonstrate individual strength, add value & contributes significantly to the team.

 The Core Competencies of an Emotionally Excellent person

Intentionality – ability to focus on mission & concentrate on job at hand.

Resilience – ability to bounce back from setbacks.

Adaptability – ability to respond effectively to changes.

Collaboration – ability to work with others.

Constructive – ability to receive & transmit criticism with open mind in a fair manner.

Interpersonal connections – ability to express appreciation & gratitude.

  

High Emotional Excellence living	Low Emotional Excellence living
Stable – always calm. Complies with the two principles of life. Non- self centered mission in life & work. Focus on a clear & meaningful mission other than self - practice thankfulness.	Unstable – always agitated. Focus on self. Starts with feeling of self-pity. Symptoms of self-pity, jealousness & envy where regret is a symptom of self pity.